Users of the internet often experience a sense that they are not in the ‘Real World’. They can not be seen nor can they see the person they are corresponding with. This also holds true when one is using text messaging and cell phones as his main communication source, especially for the emerging generation which is always on and always connected – in cyber space. This freedom of cultural and physical restraints causing a person to do or say things he possibly wouldn’t do in the presence of others is often referred to as ‘disinhibition’.
Disinhibition can have either a positive or negative result on a person. Sometimes even a neutral effect. For example the person who sees the internet as a mere tool to do his job properly or perhaps read his favourite daily newspaper.
Positive Impact of Disinhibition
The internet provides a person the privacy to research a matter he sees as sensitive. This is especially beneficial for shy and modest individuals. For some people, a sensitive matter might include what others would see as mundane or even humorous, like an interest in tango dancing or Gracie Fields.
Negative Impact of Disinhibition
The internet provides its users with the illusion they are invisible and thus anonymous. For one internet user, disinhibition may empower her to say or do what she likes as she there are no consequences. For another, disinhibition may confirm her belief that she is insignificant and her life has no real value as there is no one to watch over her. Combined, these two negative effects equal a positive environment for cyber bullying.
Steps Towards Bullying Prevention
- Do not take away cell phone or internet access from the child or teen. This is a lifeline to all social activities – positive and negative. Teens still need their friends.
- Encourage children and teens to spend more time in face-to-face activities with their friends.
- Schedule cyber-free time-out with them. Children need to know they are important to someone, especially to their parents or a significant adult in their lives.
- Children need to be taught from a young age that all actions have a reaction. This includes text messaging and e-mails. Today’s generation expects instant communication and needs to know the consequences of not thinking something through. They need to know there are laws against cyber bullying.
- Empower your teen or child. Make sure he knows and understands it is perfectly OK not to respond to or even read offending or uninvited messages.
- Check phone bills. When are teens sending their messages and to whom? Ask what they talk about at 1 a.m. on a school night.
The best anti-bullying programs are built around positive role models who enable children to develop healthy self-esteems and well-defined boundaries. Parents and schools need to work together in bully-proofing children.
For more information on cyber bullying:
The Center for Safe and Responsible Internet Use
